I don’t know about you but I am 100% introvert. I can turn on the socializing if needed. I can laugh and have fun out with friends. However, that’s not how I recharge. For me the best way to recharge is to cuddle up with a good book and maybe something in the chocolate family. This is perfectly fine because this is the way I am made. The problem is, I am raising an extrovert. There are just some differences when you are an introvert homeschooling an extrovert.
My daughter is my complete opposite. She loves to be out and about with friends and family. She thrives on conversation and constant movement. If it were up to her we would have something to do every single day. When she starts to get down, she wants to go out and do things with people. I don’t. This can cause conflict but it doesn’t have to.
Here are five things I do to embrace her extroverted heart without crushing my introverted heart.
Acknowledge the difference – It’s important to acknowledge that there is a difference between you and your child in this area. It doesn’t mean you two can’t get along. Acknowledging the problem simply opens the door for you to work past it and make the most of your time together. This will keep both of you from feeling like certain needs aren’t being met.
Have off days – As an introverted mom it can be exhausting to go and do every single day. Pick at least one day a week that you don’t have anywhere to be. This can be the refreshing you need to help you enjoy the extroverted moments in the rest of your week.
Have quiet times – I have two kids who love to talk to me. They love to tell me the same story 20 times on a loop. While I adore them more than anything in the world, there are times when I just need quiet. I need moments where no one is telling me anything or asking me anything. Every day I set a mandatory quiet time. Some days this doesn’t happen because we are out but as a rule we have an hour every day where they go to their rooms and I just have a time of peace. You can decide what you want to do with your quiet time. The focus is on having time where you can recharge before moving forward with the day.
Plan activities and get togethers – Because your child is an extrovert they need that time outside of the home with people. They will crave that and they will become unhappy without it. In the same way that you have to plan for time for quiet for yourself, you need to plan things for your child. By being deliberate in this area you will communicate to your child that you see what they need and you are trying.
Make friends with an extroverted homeschool mom – This seems counter intuitive but it’s a great idea. For introverts it can be easy to just stay home. If you have an extroverted friend they can encourage you to get out and do more. They can also let your child tag along on things that you may not have the energy for.
Are you an introvert homeschooling an extrovert? What do you do to make sure that both of you are being taken care of? What hasn’t worked?