I have been homeschooling for over 6 years now. It has been beautiful and exhausting. In that time I have heard so many different comments on the enemy of homeschool. Some say common core is the enemy. Others blame the school system. Others blame the government. After all this time, I have to believe there is a bigger enemy. It is a quiet one attacking in anonymity and leaving behind wreckage that often isn’t shared. Let me tell you a little bit about the real enemy of homeschool.
The Real Enemy of Homeschool
I am not saying there aren’t other enemies out there. I understand that there are things out there that make homeschool near impossible. However, I think this one thing is more dangerous to successfully homeschooling than anything else.
I wish I could show you the countless messages, comments, and statements homeschool moms have shared with me over the last few years. There is a common thread to them all though. “I am not enough to homeschool this child.” “I can’t do this.” “I will fail them.” This breaks my momma heart because most of the time you can do this, you are enough, and you won’t fail them. There are situations when homeschool is not a good fit but it isn’t always the case.
Let me tell you a little secret..
Doubt only has the control you give it. Don’t get me wrong. I spent the first part of my homeschool career wondering if I would be able to teach these children. I made some mistakes too… Let’s be real. There are still days when I look around and think, “how will I ever get all of the knowledge they need into them before they graduate?” Here’s the thing about doubt though, it can only thrive in solace.
The solution for this enemy is…
Transparency! That’s right. Doubt can’t do anything when you are in a group of homeschool moms and you are transparent about your fears. Suddenly doubt is wiped out as moms who have been doing this longer remind you that it isn’t a yearly thing, it’s a life journey. They take your fears about being enough and remind you that you can do this. A good group of homeschool moms can help you to see where the struggle is, and move past it.
Community crushes doubt
When you plug yourself into a community of homeschool moms and share honestly about your doubts you will find that you are not alone. We all have them. I had my fair share before we had an official answer about R’s dyslexia. I was sure that I was completely failing her. Once I learned how she learned and tweaked some things everything changed for her. If I wouldn’t have been honest with good homeschool friends, I wouldn’t have had the suggestion to look for a learning difficulty.
But my area doesn’t have many homeschoolers..
I have heard this and it hurts my heart that you think you are alone. You are not. There are some amazing ladies in my More Than a Homeschool Mom Facebook group who would love to be an encourager for you and help you to crush doubt. Feel free to join the group and be real about what you are most scared of with homeschool. I am sure one of the amazing ladies in there has walked this road.
The most important thing I can say..
You can do this. It won’t always be easy. It won’t always look like Pinterest. You may want to hide in the bathroom sometimes with ice cream or chocolate but you can do this. Teach the way they learn, trust your gut, and trust the guidance (not unsolicited advice) of other moms and you will be ok.
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