As I type this my children are in their rooms for quiet time. They are playing with legos or reading a book or doing something that doesn’t involve asking me twenty million questions. Don’t get me wrong. I adore them but in order to homeschool my kids, I have to work from home. This means that I have to find times in my day that I carve out to focus exclusively on this blog and my other jobs and get them done. I have been working from home for quite some time but over the last few months, I have had to increase my hours considerably. I found myself looking at some of the things that happened and saying, “They don’t tell work at home moms this!”
They Don’t Tell Work at Home Moms This!
There is the glamorous image of working from home. It’s this idea that you can be right in the midst of it all. You can love your children while still earning an income and providing for your family. Let me let you in on a secret. It’s not always pretty. Sometimes it really really sucks.
Sometimes it means ignoring your kids..
Let’s be real. If you are working from home. You are working. You are not hanging out with the kids. You are working. This means that if you are on the clock your focus needs to be on your job. Would you want to be billed for time that was spent on other things? If you work from home you will have to tell your child to wait for you to finish what you are doing and then you will give them your attention.
There is balance here. Set dedicated work hours and make a point of spending quality time. It doesn’t make you a bad mom to work from home and not spend every minute with your child. Moms who work outside the home are not bad moms because they go to work and are not with their children every moment.
Sometimes it means you won’t sleep…
In order to keep a balance between family and work, you may find yourself getting up super early or going to bed super late in order to work. This may mean that while you work from home, sleep and you will not be good friends. Make sure that you balance in enough sleep so that you are healthy, though. It is not wise to be so sleep deprived that you are unhappy the entire day.
Employers may not understand your time..
There are some employers that will think that because you are home you have time to spare. Because of this, they will heap work on you and have you do plenty of extra work that you do not have time for. It is important to be firm about what you can and cannot do. Do not let someone take advantage of your time.
Kids will get sick..
The other night my little guy was dealing with really bad growing pains in his legs. I had a work deadline I had to meet. My husband was not home. I had to meet my son’s needs but I couldn’t miss the work deadline that needed met. I put him on my lap, laid his head on my shoulder, and kept working. It wasn’t comfortable. He cried. I cried. Then he fell asleep and I worked with a very awkward 7-year-old on my lap. It won’t always be easy but working from home is possible if you are willing to do the difficult stuff.
Life goes on around you..
This is the hardest one for me. I would love to watch a movie with my husband. I would have a ton of fun going out to a theme park with the kids or just sitting and being a part of the joke being told. Being a work at home mom means that life goes on around you but you will be working and unable to take part in it.
You will see the value of an hour of work…
Because life goes on around you, you really do see the value of an hour of work. Every hour of work you do, you see that you are sacrificing that hour with the ones you love in order to give them the life that is best for them.
There are some beautiful perks, though. I love that I can work from home and be where my kids are. I love that I choose my schedule. My children see first hand what discipline looks like and what it means to work hard. I wouldn’t trade that for working outside the home.
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