Today I have been fighting a cold. I’d like to say that I was a superhero. I would like to claim that I rocked homeschooling and momming today. I didn’t. Today I showed up.
Today I Showed Up
As I sit here writing this I am exhausted after a long day. I look back on the day and I see a hundred places where I wasn’t the mom I could have been. There are piles of laundry, clutter on my table, and I had a short fuse with my kids more than I want to admit.
Here’s the thing. Today I showed up. In a world so focused on being Pinterest perfect that is considered a fail. There is an unspoken expectation that stay at home moms should be on all the time. Guess what, that’s ridiculous. Sometimes it is completely ok to show up. I wasn’t perfect. I didn’t have it all together. I could have done a hundred things better but I showed up. While it can’t be your standard, it is ok to just show up some days and give your kids what you have.
Today the dishes got done. Today I watched a few funny videos with them. Today the kids did a bit of schoolwork.
5 Things to do on Show Up Days
Call it for what it is.
Don’t fake it until you make it. Sugar coated poop is still poop. Instead, call a show-up day a show-up day. Own the fact that it won’t be perfect and you won’t win any awards but you are giving it what you have.
Find the smiles.
So it’s a show-up day? That doesn’t mean you can’t smile at some point with your family. This could mean watching a funny video or playing a shortboard game. Show up days are not Monopoly days. They also aren’t glitter days. Just saying. Find the small things that will make your kids smile.
Order out or pull out a freezer meal.
No one wants to cook on a show-up day. This is the kind of day when cereal for dinner works. It is also totally acceptable to pull out a freezer meal or order food you don’t have to cook. If you have a little more gumption, throw something in the crockpot in the morning and forget about it until dinner time.
Take the day off.
On a show-up day, it may be best to not do too much official schoolwork. I’m not always a Netflix homeschool mom but I definitely turn on a documentary or some Magic Schoolbus when I have a cold. The schoolwork will be there tomorrow. Take the day and deal with whatever made it a show up day.
Be kind to yourself.
As moms, it can be so easy to belittle ourselves. We judge ourselves by an unrealistic standard and then beat ourselves down when we don’t meet it. Don’t do that to yourself on any day but on your show up day, be extra kind to yourself. It is ok to not be Pinterest perfect. Half the Pinterest perfection you see is staged anyway.
I want to challenge you to own your show up days. Don’t let them make you feel like less. So you showed up? Guess what. Your kids won’t remember your show up day. They’ll remember you were present in their lives when you could have been elsewhere.
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