Being a homeschool mom isn’t easy. Sometimes I just want to write a letter to non-homeschool moms. I decided today to write that letter. I hope that it encourages you to helps you to see what homeschool moms are really thinking. (It’s not what you think.)
Dear non-homeschool Mom,
I have met you in the store, in church, at the playground, and all over town. We usually start talking about life and our kids. The conversation is always beautiful and then the conversation turns to education. With a pregnant pause, I prepare to tell you that we homeschool. I do this because I don’t know what to expect. I don’t know how you will react to the news that we chose to homeschool.
Will you judge me?
I wonder for a second, will I have to hear judgment? Will I have do defend my choice to you? I prepare my answers to your questions. I run through all I know about socialization, my personal education, and the possibility that I will have to tell you this is the best choice for my daughter with dyslexia. I challenge you if you are that mom to please give grace. If you don’t agree with homeschooling please don’t attack me. I hear this from most of the people I encounter on a daily basis. Even if you don’t agree, trust that I am doing what is best for the children I am raising.
Will you defend your choice?
I have seen it happen. I meet you and you are insecure about your choice to put your child in school. Because of this you list every reason you chose to put your child in school. You make me a list and give me your presentation without knowing that I respect your choice. I respect that you did what you believe is best for your child and your family. You don’t have to promise me that you will try more. You don’t have to tell me you are putting your child in private school instead. You don’t have to defend yourself. We are both moms doing our best for the children we were given.
Will you be offended?
I have met a few moms who are offended because they have met some less than respectful homeschool parents. Because of encountering a homeschool mom who thinks homeschool is the only option, you are probably bracing yourself for battle. You won’t find one here. It takes too much out of me each day to educate the little ones in my home, run my home, and keep a business running. I don’t have the energy to condemn you for educating your children the way you feel you should. I would challenge you to come in to the conversation expecting a mom who won’t judge.
I know that encountering a homeschool family can be loaded with so much. You never know who you are talking to. Keep in mind that there are so many different types of homeschoolers just like there are many types of people. While you may meet a few lemons, some of us are actually pretty decent people to hang around. If you will drop your pre-conceived expectations, I will drop mine.
Not THAT homeschool mom.
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